Sometimes a girl may have to kiss a lot of frogs before she finds her prince.
I’m sure the frogs agree. One or two might even be daring enough to use this as a pick-up line.
To my surprise Indian parents also seem to agree. Parents anxious to marry off their well-educated, beautiful, hard-working and independent daughters into good families of their choice, overlook the fact that while they are opposed to the idea of the girl finding her Prince Charming on her own, they are willing to let her mingle with a lot many frogs who are brought up the right way.
Don’t get me wrong here, I’m not entirely opposed to the idea of arranged marriage. But the way I’ve seen it work, it is manipulation tactics at their best. A girl is educated and raised to be ambitious about her career, and at the same time, she is brought up knowing that no longer than her 24th birthday, she will be married off, and preferably through an arranged marriage. The girl has 24 years of her life to make peace with the fact that she will be married to a stranger with whom she has shared just a few moments alone. The girl quietly accepts and leaves matters in her parents hands. Everyone thinks she is happy, because she did not show any resistance to the idea of arranged marriage.
Some families are more liberal-minded. Their daughters are allowed to mingle with frogs and toads freely. Princesses are generally left to their own devices, and frogs are even invited to dinner, until one fine day when realization strikes that the frog is just a frog and not a Prince charming. Or maybe that their daughter has grown tired of frogs and needs a real Prince. And then, manipulation kicks in.
And so the girl eventually agrees to ditch her own frog and meet up many others before she gets tired and belies herself into thinking one of them is her prince, and chooses to marry him. Or, she may get real lucky and truly find her Prince Charming somewhere along the way. I sure hope most girls get lucky and find their Prince.
I’m not saying all families are this way. I’ve met some truly supportive families who let their daughters choose her own happiness. I wish more families were that way. I know that the parents are just trying to ensure their daughter’s future happiness, and arranged marriages do work out well sometimes. But wouldn’t the daughter feel more in control of her life if left to choose her own groom and the date of her wedding?
I’m also not saying frogs make for bad husbands, if the girl marries one instead of her prince.
It’s just that finding your Prince (or thinking you’ve found one) on your own, would be much better for me at least! I would love to know what you think!
And in the meanwhile…
Pucker away, beautiful princesses!
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